A lot of committed vegans I know don’t sweat over it if mistakes are made on the “vegan” menu. They advise the staff politely, discarding what they can by hand and eating that they can’t. Wasting a meal makes a mockery of the point of being a vegan in many ways.

This teenager possibly gets it. Dad is intentionally overdoing it. There is a lot we can learn about how to do better politics here. Perfection is the enemy of the good.