We make plans because we recognise from a logical perspective that it’s a good thing for our wellbeing to maintain social relationships, to have friends, to leave the house, and to do things.
But then when the time comes for the actual thing to happen, we are dreading it and don’t want to do it. This may be because we are sad, tired, depressed, weary, socially anxious, or any number of things.
If forced to do the thing, we will generally feel afterwards that it was worth doing, and happy about going, and proud that we did it, but also probably exhausted from social stress.
We won’t cancel events ourselves - again because we recognise logically that it’s a good thing to do and we should do it - But if it gets cancelled by the other party it feels like an absolute blessing. Now the day has suddenly been freed from all stress, and we don’t have to worry anymore - and we aren’t the ones to blame!
We make plans because we recognise from a logical perspective that it’s a good thing for our wellbeing to maintain social relationships, to have friends, to leave the house, and to do things.
But then when the time comes for the actual thing to happen, we are dreading it and don’t want to do it. This may be because we are sad, tired, depressed, weary, socially anxious, or any number of things.
If forced to do the thing, we will generally feel afterwards that it was worth doing, and happy about going, and proud that we did it, but also probably exhausted from social stress.
We won’t cancel events ourselves - again because we recognise logically that it’s a good thing to do and we should do it - But if it gets cancelled by the other party it feels like an absolute blessing. Now the day has suddenly been freed from all stress, and we don’t have to worry anymore - and we aren’t the ones to blame!