I’m looking for a new instance since lemm.ee is closing by the end of the month. What’s a good instance to be on these days?

I’m looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

  • Nusm@yall.theatl.socialEnglish
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    5 hours ago

    My recommendation would be to find a local instance - one that’s closest to you - and sign up for that. I’m not in Atlanta, but I am in Georgia, so I signed up for the yall.theatl.social instance (the server is in Atlanta), and I couldn’t be happier. It’s a smaller instance, but I converse regularly with the admins when I have a question or a problem, and they are accessible and always open to suggestions.

    I like it so much that I also use the theatl.social Mastodon instance as my main Mastodon as well. I throw them a few bucks every month to help with costs, and I’m happy to do it.

    I would agree with those who say smaller instances are the way to go.

    • darksiderbun@lemmy.caEnglish
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      5 hours ago

      Yeah. Smaller instances for sure. I’m in Canada so I went with lemmy.ca and I’ve never had any issues and everything is just peachy 😌

  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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    7 hours ago

    You dont need to limit yourself to just one, feel free to diversify your presence.

    But for a real answer: The smaller ones; The smaller the more respecfull they feel.

    Though more users does demonstrate capabilities. Not every server is fast or stable.

  • Kierunkowy74@piefed.socialEnglish
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    8 hours ago

    You might like https://piefed.social/.

    • Usual controversial instances (hexbear, grad, hilariouschaos…) are banned here,
    • Posts and replies with many downvotes are collapsed by default,
    • You can individually block any (whole) instance, community, users and linked domains. You can also filter the keywords,
    • Any much-downvoted user will appear with red warning sign
  • FundMECFS@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    8 hours ago

    Since you mention you have no real opinions about lemm.ee. You were just on there by chance.

    I’ll propose you the style of blahaj which is to have downvotes disabled, its quite a different way to interact with lemmy, maybe a bit weird to get used to. But it feels much less hostile. And it fosters a good culture of just ignoring shitty takes and replies.

    As far as “no extremes” you mentioned you prefer, blahaj blocks lemmygrad and hexbear (ultra authoritarians) and any far right instance (think hilariouschaos)

  • MemmingenFan@feddit.orgEnglish
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    8 hours ago

    If you ask 5 different fediverse users about their favorite instance you will get 15 different answers.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      8 hours ago

      Good good. I hope that’s the case. I’d prefer to see the variety of instances that people enjoy. :)

  • LostXOR@fedia.io
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    9 hours ago

    I’ve had a great experience here on fedia.io. It’s a smaller instance, and it is running Mbin instead of Lemmy, but everything federates over so you get the same content. Might feel a bit weird switching from Lemmy, but if you feel like it I’d recommend giving it a try. :)

    We’re also defederated from Hexbear, lemmy.ml, and Lemmygrad if that’s a factor.

    • Fitik@fedia.io
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      7 hours ago

      Enjoy it as well, I also love how reliable it is, it’s been around longer than software it’s currently running(Mbin)

  • CarbonIceDragon@pawb.socialEnglish
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    9 hours ago

    I’ve been pretty happy with how the instance I use has been run thus far, but it is focused around furries, so it won’t be something most people outside that subculture like I expect. Still, the fandom is big enough that someone in it looking for an instance might look at this thread, so I mention it anyway.

  • scytale@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    9 hours ago

    .zip has the closest instance policies to .ee. A lot of .ee refugees moved there (me included). Some also moved to piefed if you’re considering that.

  • nimmo@social.nimmog.uk
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    9 hours ago

    I’ve found that self-hosrinf my own instance has been a very good way of keeping the number of bits, spammers and people that like to take things to the extremes at a nice and consistent 0.

    Sure, self hosting your own instance isn’t for everyone but it’s definitely doable and I’m satisfied with my experiences so far.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      8 hours ago

      I like the idea of self hosting; I’m just concerned about being defederated by an admin/mod that’s taken things the wrong way.

      I’m not a spicy person, but I’m sure I’ve upset some people, some how. I say that, but I know I’ve upset at least one person online.

      The person stated they do a thing, and me being curious, I asked them a question about it because I wanted to know more. They replied with a really angry message. It sounds preposterous but it really was as benign as that. I’ve seen the same person respond to others in the same unreasonable manner. It’s this type of person that I’m concerned about.

      • hendrik@palaver.p3x.deEnglish
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        7 hours ago

        I don’t think you need to worry about that too much. It’s a very uncommon character trait for constructive people. Alike people who run a successful instance. Most of them are nice. And the very few who aren’t, or are very agitated/argumentative will inevitably run into issues with other people as well… So there isn’t much to loose.

    • doctortran@lemm.eeEnglish
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      8 hours ago

      Problem isn’t so much defederation policy in and of itself, as much as it is just the general level-headedness of the admins

      Lemm.ee’s lead admin had exactly the type of philosophy towards managing this platform that I want to see in wherever I go next.

      • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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        5 hours ago

        Unfortunately that philosophy led them to close down their instance due to burnout, so maybe it’s not exactly a winning one 😅

      • hendrik@palaver.p3x.deEnglish
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        6 hours ago

        Fingers crossed, but we also know Lemmy might not be ready for that type of philosophy. I mean I still don’t know what exactly happened, but lemm.ee wasn’t successful in the end. And the underlying issues are still there. So the next admin team might face the same dynamics.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      8 hours ago

      Any website or service that utilizes the .zip TLD 🤮🤮

      I’m sure there are great websites and services that utilize it, but I have a strong opinion that the TLD should have never been put out there for people to use. I block all .zip TLD domains with no exceptions; and so unfortunately, I cannot use lemmy.zip.

      To be fair, I have no real opinions about lemm.ee. It was one of the instances that had the most users when I joined Lemmy, and as far as I’m aware it hasn’t received any real negative press.

      I’m more bothered about seeing or being associated with spam and/or an instance full of toxic people. I’m not a spicy person - or so I’d like to think.

      • fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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        7 hours ago

        I’m more bothered about seeing or being associated with spam and/or an instance full of toxic people. I’m not a spicy person - or so I’d like to think.

        Zip’s a very trustworthy instance, all admins know about it; so i doubt anything wrong will happen in that regard 😉

      • tisktisk@piefed.socialEnglish
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        8 hours ago

        is the TLD just aesthetically unpleasing or are there technical issues with zip archive files? Curious to know how one can judge one TLD over others just b/c I’ve never really thought ab it until now

        • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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          7 hours ago

          If you saw ChromeUpdate202506.zip, then what do you believe it is? A downloadable update for Chrome or a website?

          What if a malicious person has purchased that domain and filled the website with something malicious, a virus, an info stealer, etc?

          I block the .zip TLD because the domains can be used maliciously. Within the first few days there were hundreds/thousands of domains registered with names to look like zip files for updating software and the like.

          I also block the .mov TLD for the exact same reason.

          Sure on a good day you can spot the malicious intent from a mile away, but I like to protect for when I’m having a bad day. I also block the TLDs for the whole family as well because unfortunately they’re not as tech savvy or meticulous.

        • ProfessorProteus@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          8 hours ago

          Just gonna pitch in here, but I’m no expert. I was reading people’s reactions when that TLD was introduced, and they raised concerns over the possibility that a bad actor could spoof an address that actually downloads a .zip file to your device when you click the link, even though you may assume it’s an address to a page. No idea what a hypothetical virus could do from a compressed environment, but thats what I remember reading.

          Sorry to any experts if I’m muddying the waters with a dumb take!