

Even when it works it’s much slower to connect to my server than VPN.
I wonder why.
Wireguard / TS runs faster than VPN’s, and even my family member has had a couple of devices on my Tailnet down at their place for a couple of years now, and they haven’t a clue how it works and fully believe I’m a magician.
Any background on your connection/location/devices etc?
The way I do it for a family member with Tailscale is them having a couple of boxes down there (n100 with their Jellyfin server, and a RPI4 with a TVHServer) with my Tailnet signed in, and those boxes running both a “subnet router” and an "exit node"that both me and said fam member can use.
This means she has permissions to use the exit node wherever like I do to my own local LAN, to connect to her LAN and access things locally since you can assign them via the ACL’s / device perms.
I know reading docs can suck sometimes but honest to god the ones that Tailscale put up are pretty awesome.
https://tailscale.com/kb
Along with all the YT videos about it I didn’t even have to go nagging on forums to get it to work, and that’s a general first for me.