• ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
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    7 days ago

    We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.

    We’re just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.

  • SinningStromgald@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    The opposite is normally true for my SO and I. They will still accuse me of making the mess but once I sort things into piles and show the mess is from them they are always very surprised.

  • Harvey656@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and…

    But she’s hot and makes more money, so its all good.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn’t usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.

    • emb@lemmy.world
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      8 days ago

      There’s an old Mitch Hedberg joke that goes something like “This shirt is dry clean only, which means… it’s dirty”

      I think the same applies exactly for dishes that aren’t dishwasher safe. I have a dishwasher but my sink still has a pile of dishes waiting.

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.

    abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.

    • Stegget@lemmy.world
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      7 days ago

      Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.

      • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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        7 days ago

        However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.

        • Stegget@lemmy.world
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          7 days ago

          My saving grace was that the last time she hit me, it was on camera. Video evidence goes a long way toward forcing the hand of the police.