There’s not a lot of social activities I can’t currently participate in (that might improve soon), and the local population is too low for app dating to be realistic (if it is anyway?)
I’m just in a really weird mental place. Finally divorced, but still recovering from her cheating on me 5 years ago.
I learned a lot about the 15 years leading up to that. She was never really into me. She isolated me. She changed my social habits. She found ways to hurt my self esteem. She gaslit me, convinced me I was wrong about what a healthy relationship was, I was incapable of being a good father, I didn’t take on enough responsibility, I restricted her access to my resources. She love bombed me, so it trained me into accepting her statements.
I was stupid and tried to make it work. 3 years after she cheated on me, I caught her sexting with a guy, who she admitted was the guy she cheated on me with. I was 216 lbs at that point. In a few months I skyrocketed to 288.
I’ve since made a lot of improvements. We separated. We divorced. I’m down to 193 lbs, and and its muscle (unfortunately being fat stretches your skin too much to make that muscle nice and prominent, but it’s there). But I’m still 34. I don’t have connections to single people. I’m still fighting the abusive attachment, and I wonder if it’s because I don’t see an alternative.
I agree.
Let’s just also agree to exclude my ex wife from this though. She can aspirate a Lego.
Everything okay at home, bud?
No.
There’s not a lot of social activities I can’t currently participate in (that might improve soon), and the local population is too low for app dating to be realistic (if it is anyway?)
I’m just in a really weird mental place. Finally divorced, but still recovering from her cheating on me 5 years ago.
I learned a lot about the 15 years leading up to that. She was never really into me. She isolated me. She changed my social habits. She found ways to hurt my self esteem. She gaslit me, convinced me I was wrong about what a healthy relationship was, I was incapable of being a good father, I didn’t take on enough responsibility, I restricted her access to my resources. She love bombed me, so it trained me into accepting her statements.
I was stupid and tried to make it work. 3 years after she cheated on me, I caught her sexting with a guy, who she admitted was the guy she cheated on me with. I was 216 lbs at that point. In a few months I skyrocketed to 288.
I’ve since made a lot of improvements. We separated. We divorced. I’m down to 193 lbs, and and its muscle (unfortunately being fat stretches your skin too much to make that muscle nice and prominent, but it’s there). But I’m still 34. I don’t have connections to single people. I’m still fighting the abusive attachment, and I wonder if it’s because I don’t see an alternative.
TL;DR: No