• Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    The problem with saying “Asians are fetishized” is that EVERY race is fetishized. Every body feature is fetishized. Small tits? Fetishized. Big tits? Fetishized. Black? Fetishized. White? Fetishized. Asian? Fetishized. Wear glasses? Fetishized.

    No matter who you are, there’s SOMEOME fetishizing you.

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      9 days ago

      I’ve had exactly one partner that was with me as an interracial kink. And it was REALLY creepy. Didn’t like it at all. I ask about family a lot to flush that out, if ‘‘my dad would be so pissed if they knew I was dating you’’ pops up. I’m out. It’s a terrible feeling. The ‘‘this doesn’t matter because it happens to everyone’’ logic is deeply flawed. This isn’t an equation, mutual problems don’t invalidate eachother, it just sucks when you realize you’re experiencing it and you never want to deal with it again.

      Just in case anyone cares, I’m not an Asian woman, I’m a Hispanic man, I relate to the comic, I don’t think it’s invalid because it also has happened to me.

    • lordnikon@lemmy.world
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      It’s almost what is being fetishized is not the problem everyone has a preference. It’s the objectification that’s the problem and not seeing another person as a whole human with agency.

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        9 days ago

        Indeed, being attracted to certain aesthetic features isn’t a bad thing. But seeking out someone to fulfill that fantasy, irrespective of any other factor, is.

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      And it’s still not good, and far less frequent than what Asian women endure in the West.

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        Nah, little/big tits are character traits that span multiple races so they’re probably going to be fetishized more broadly just by virtue of that.

        So here we might need another dimension. I’d call it depth or thoroughness. The idea of submissive asian women might be more thorough in its fetishized details, but probably isn’t as broadly as things like tit size.

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    Where’s the line, like initial attraction is kind of - by definition always limited in it’s understanding of “the other”… Whether that’s a woman finding a fatherly figure attractive, or a gay guy finding a bear attractive, or someone finding an Irish accent hot…

    They’re all empty slates we project onto, it’s only later that we learn about the human beyond those characteristics. Then we find out they’re kind of a horrible person, and that’s the end of that.

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    One of these days I’ll open one of these threads and not see the tech obsessed weeaboo mens rights activists trying to justify treating women as sex objects.

    Not today sadly.

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      I was like “surely it’s not that bad”, figuring on a couple/three nOt AlL mEN commenters.

      Alas no, a whole thread of “everyone fetishizes someone” bs.

      No, you slap dicks, it’s possible to “have a type” without objectifying people. Do you even know what objectifying is? Can you understand the difference between attraction and viewing another human as an object that only exists for your gratification?

      I think part of it is just life inexperience, combined with parents being afraid of having honest conversations with their kids about sexuality, attraction, and respect. I know I had a LOT of growing to do as a young man. I greatly appreciate the friends I had that called me out on my bullshit. I’m also glad my shyness kept me from outright chode behavior as a youth. I could’ve been very harmful in different circumstances. Not intentionally, but harmful nonetheless

      I am heartened that so many in this thread are calling out the foolishness. I just hope the boys listen