• Vreyan31@reddthat.com
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    2 hours ago

    Meanwhile, all the progressive poly guys I know who have figured out how to deeply respect women have more partners than they really have time for. And quite a few of them are not “good looking” by any conventional standard (though some are).

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    14 hours ago

    if every conservative woman hitched with every conservative man they would be 84% in a relationship.

    but many conservative men are unpalatable even to conservative women

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      it’s almost like being conservative comes with almost inherent traits that make someone undesirable as a partner. lack of open mindedness, critical thinking, any form of emotional maturity…

      there’s a reason many conservatives in dating apps hide their beliefs. they know its a red flag for many more things than their “politics”.

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        6 hours ago

        lack of open mindedness, critical thinking, any form of emotional maturity…

        Wasting money on loud motorcycles and huge smoke-emitting trucks …

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      The last woman I dated before my current girlfriend was a conservative woman. I didn’t see any flags for it, she seemed really open minded, and was very well educated. Shame on me for being so blind I suppose.

      She turned out to have a husband and a young son. I’m not entirely sure what to believe since cheaters will say a lot of things, but she apparently hated her marriage a lot. She wouldn’t leave due to her beliefs though.

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    15 hours ago

    Am I lonley? hmm idk. I’m sure I could pay someone for some cuddle time. aside from that I’m pretty okay. Litteral cuddles you pervs.

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    16 hours ago

    Laugh it up, but don’t get angry at third party voters when you continue to pretend you don’t need those people’s votes and lose again.

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      I know you think “loosing again” would be this terrible thing but like bold of you to assume I want to bail you out of this horrible dystopia.

      They gonna have to learn…

      • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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        15 hours ago

        Oh, no. Not at all.

        I get it.

        Both sides seem to really, really enjoy fascism if they think the governmental pistol is pointed at the right people.

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        15 hours ago

        There have been many people who’ve gone viral across social media regarding their regret for voting Republican in the last election, and those are votes that could be snapped up by legitimate, thoughtful engagement.

        Instead, we get these memes that are cheering on men’s mental health and economic crises. Maybe it’s fun to do that, but it’s also stupid.

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              I don’t know why you think that means we shouldn’t ridicule conservative men as a whole. What counts for “conservative” now is actual fascism, not simply being bigoted or wanting deregulation. This is how MAGA “conservatives” themselves gatekeep things, so it’s not like I’m painting with a broad brush.

              If someone escapes the cult, I’m proud of them, but I’m not pulling punches on the tribe they used to be a part of.

              • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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                I don’t know why you think that means we shouldn’t ridicule conservative men as a whole.

                The activist class doesn’t ridicule conservative men as a whole.

                They ridicule men as a whole, and ignore that the crises facing men are not imagined nor hyperbole: they’re real, and the only people acknowledging them or pretending to offer solutions are conservatives.

                Ask yourself how likely you are to trust people who punch you in the face, and how silly it is to blame them when it’s you who threw the punches and broke your hand.

                • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                  The activist class doesn’t ridicule conservative men as a whole.

                  They ridicule men as a whole, and ignore that the crises facing men are not imagined nor hyperbole

                  Just because so many men believe this doesn’t make it true. I’ve had to hang out with men who believed similar things, and in my experience they had never actually met these activists they fear. Even when there are women who think that poorly of men, most of them aren’t out there harassing random dudes. That sort of discourse is either targeted or terminally online.

                  The real failure of the left has always been offering salient narratives; catchy ideas that are convenient and empowering. Believing you’re superior for the circumstances of your birth is easier than class consciousness. Accepting that certain arguments really did have no merit is harder than doubling down.

                  Men are treated like shit by conservative ideology; a belief system that leaves many of them behind completely and works every one of them to the bone for some mythical masculine glory. I have empathy for men, as they need to escape the conservative trap that’ll chew them up and spit them out.

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                  Racists only need to trust that saying the n-word in public will get their ass beat.

                  So it is for being republican.

                  Why are you people so opposed to using shame to your strategic advantage?

                  Being conservative is not genetic: If they don’t want to deal with the extreme difficulty of being republican in public, then they should stop doing that.

                  I don’t care if they understand why or not. They will submit or perish.

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    17 hours ago

    Male loneliness epidemic doesn’t have anything to do with being single or not 🤦

    Why do you think they join extremist male organizations? It ain’t to get laid.

    That being said, if me being single is a byproduct of women collectively saying “fuck this conservative male bullshit,” by all means keep at it. I’m much happier with them not reproducing.

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      14 hours ago

      The right wing routinely try to co-opt terminology and twist it to their uses. You’ve fallen for this again by assuming every mention of a term is actually the twisted propoganda version.

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        It’s not. It’s actual loneliness. Not having regular social activities, not having support systems in place for their frustrations. Not being close to family, not having anyone to help them when they get sick. Plenty of lonely people are getting laid, but they still lack all that support.

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          No sexual activity as part of lack of normal and healthy social life is part of loneliness. Lack of intimacy and closeness is pretty bad to people.

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            Yes I’m not arguing that. But it’s only one aspect. There are more criteria to it.

            Otherwise it seems as though people are arguing it’s inevitable that single men will remain single - and more men will isolate, and choose between suicide and radicalization. This is not true if the remaining social support is in place.

            I understand this. I really do. I’m having just as hard of a time getting any dates as anyone else. I’m sexually and romantically frustrated as all hell. I understand the draw of the manosphere. But the disease that is spreading isnt because of the lack of that sex or romance.

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    I’m a 42 year old man with a cat and still single due to living in a very rural republican area and all women here are hardcore Trump fans so I’ll just stay single and spend time with my cat.

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    Authoritarians are probably less likely to keep cats, either because they’re not obedient/useful or because keeping cats is coded as feminine and thus contemptible.

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      Couldn’t be more wrong. Authoritarians are often psychopaths, and cats (honestly) are kinda psychopathic animals, if very charming, invasive predators and all that. So like many of them love cats and hate dogs (dogs are too direct and chaotic).

      And when I had authoritarian views (monarchist with hard limitations, kinda similar to paleo-libertarians if I think about it, but I didn’t have knowledge of such terms then ; it was really long ago and was a reaction at being autistic among not very nice people), I wanted to have a piece of territory covered in tall grass and bushes populated by cats, so.